tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-69275689899917827542024-02-20T09:01:13.978-08:00my casuarina treea potpourri of everything - from sense to sentimental, stupid to serene,nice to hopeless, personal to obvious...Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15176915839422507087noreply@blogger.comBlogger166125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927568989991782754.post-91301018452202093092017-02-12T23:02:00.000-08:002017-02-13T06:14:25.917-08:003 movies in 3 weeks<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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That we love watching movies is now a lore, you'd think these reviews are arriving rather late in the day. So, one, I usually don't write when everyone else is watching the movie and busy tweeting and reviewing the movie if it's a must watch or a dampener. I prefer writing when everyone else has gone home with reams in their head about this and that and everything else.</div>
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<b>Raees</b></div>
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The last SRK film I watched on the big screen was <i>Billu (Billu Barber)</i> for it had Irfan Khan (and he is god). All further releases after that, I've watched them on TataSky or discounted DVDs that dear husband buys off during seasonal sales. My sister insisted we watch Raees in the multiplex. Part of me was worried because, we have never visited the multiplex ever with kids unless a children's movie is in question. Even The Jungle Book in 3D failed to woo our two home-theater loving boys. They kept complaining it was too dark. Well, that's another story for another day. </div>
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Luckily for us, the boys had a hearty lunch so when the Udi-Udi Jaye song started they soared to a good afternoon siesta. Long story short, an aging SRK trying to do what <i>Once Upon a Time in Mumbai</i> did to Ajay Devgun. Ajay Devgun was class personified with his bell bottoms, long sideburns, stiff broad shirt collars and that mustache which took him to another level. Here, the only lingering memory of SRK was his kohl-ed eyes and tanned but pancaked skin, all in sepia. The lesser known support characters were good despite the strong editing which was to make SRK stand out - Nawazuddin's character of Majmudar looked too hurried to dispense justice and hence, did not move me so much despite the dialogues and Mohammed Zeeshan Ayub should come out of his checklist as a character actor and start taking more fleshed-out roles, he must know he is very good. Mahira Khan was all sound(given the pre-release controversy), anyone could have done her role and still stayed forgotten. So, there was no story. It was a badly made porridge riding on that one promotional line of the antihero- "<i>baniye ki dimaag aur miya bhai ki daring</i>". Too many topics scattered here and there- there was Gujarat, communal politics, bootlegging, mohalle ka savior, encounter killings and Sunny Leone trying to dance. SRK, oops you tried but you're tired.</div>
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Ratings- 1.5/5</div>
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<b>Kaabil</b></div>
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I don't remember watching too many notable Roshan Jr movies except <i>Zindagi Na Milega Dobara </i>where he played a near perfect but arrogant investment banker who can sing, swim and dance and perhaps, <i>Agneepath</i>. I've read more reams of his divorce and his mud-slinging with Kangana Ranaut.</div>
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We all know by now that <i>Kaabil</i> is a rape revenge drama involving a visually-challenged couple and two corrupt and lawless Maharashtrian corporator brother-duo played by real life brothers, Ronit and Rohit Roy. The pace is fast - fairy tale romance of two visually challenged professionals, marriage, and a double rape which culminates in suicide of Yami's character even before the intermission. </div>
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While it was encouraging to see a movie being made on visually-challenged people, the tepid way of dealing with relationships was disappointing and sexist to say the least. A self-reliant blind girl has to wear uncomfortable shoes to make her intended-to-be happy and familiar that she is around. Who cares about painful toes and wobbly walking and tripping on them? She has to let go of her walking stick in public because he is there for her only to get lost. She takes out her walking stick only to be interrupted by a love-is-in-the-air apology in the middle of a movie promotion in a mall. The worst is perhaps feeling sorry that she got raped twice and is no longer acceptable unconditionally because the man felt violated. So the suicide. The movie was a drag after that. Justifying it with the super revenge tactics is as lame as as believing that the world of the blind is a perfect world. But the disturbing part is, how do men deal with a raped spouse/relative? I do not have answers. Rohit Roy has not come out of his <i>Swabhimaan</i> avatar in terms of dialogue delivery and Ronit Roy is deliciously menacing as Bhausaheb.</div>
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Ratings - 1.5/5</div>
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Akshay Kumar has grown as an actor. Remember the hairy-chested <i>Khiladi</i> days where he gyrated nonsensically to Anu Malik songs? The turning point as a viewer happened with <i>Ajnabee</i> where he plays a villain to a dumb Bobby Deol and of course, the <i>Hera-Pheri</i> series. He started picking up smart scripts and kept pace with smart image makeovers. I've not missed too many of his movies after that. He looks relatable quite often and seems hardworking.</div>
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I really enjoyed <i>Jolly LLB -1</i>, Arshad Warsi was delightful as Jagdish Tyagi. I cannot think of anyone else as Jolly. And, I think I'm quite convinced about it. But then, it is Akshay Kumar this time and how could I not go!</div>
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The movie suddenly throws up a super progressive whisky-chugging Human Qureishi as Pushpa Pandey, wife of Jolly Pandey, originally from Kanpur now in Lucknow who rents a Gucci dress. I have no problem with her whisky act but it was such a miss and blink role from clapping for her husband in court which looked stupid to going through legal papers and evidence to find the fifth cop in the Ipbal Qasim/Qureishi (played achingly by Manav Kaul) encounter killing/murder and eating garma-garam rotis prepared by her husband. </div>
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My in-laws thoroughly enjoyed the movie given its hinterland flavor though Papaji thinks Arshad Warsi is miles better than version 2.0. We also reasoned that Arshad Warsi played a proper Dilliwala and that has its own spice and flavor. Akshay Kumar tried as Jolly version 2.0 and he maybe earning accolades but the actual star of the movie is our adorable teddy bear judge sahib, Saurabh Shukla who loves Alia Bhatt in all forms. You have to watch the movie for him. His mannerisms, his quirks as a father, a heart patient and a judge transferred from Delhi to Lucknow are bang on. The bunch of veteran actors who make up for the ensemble cast are not disappointing at all as Akshay's flaws get hidden by their craft. Kumud Mishra as a villain, yes. You also learn lyrical Lucknowi Hindi through Annu Kapoor who never fails to surprise you.</div>
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I don't drive to work. I have a car and I have 3 valid excuses for not driving. No, don't get me started. And, I hate the claustrophobic buses. I also hate most of the commercial sedans and the few smelly hatchbacks that offer attractive deals. I hate ACs in vehicles. I totally love the unsafe autos. Ok, don't get me started on why UNSAFE, then WHY unsafe.</div>
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Ola-ed an auto on Rakshabandhan to meet a friend over coffee. That Saturday all our North Indian brethren on Sarjapur Road decided to lunch out and have some fun midtown. Well,imagine the traffic bottleneck on this stretch. Idreez Pasha, the Ola man of the hour asked me if there was an another route other than Sarjapur Road. Conversation was bound to happen. He was very brief and direct. He is from Kolar, earns honestly and goes home to his wife and kids every alternate week. No lodgings in Bangalore - his auto is his home. I thought I'd hire him to ferry me to work everyday. He also offered to show me Kolar whenever we intended to do a trip there. I didn't have the heart to keep him away from his wife and kids every alternate week that he went home.I decided against hiring him.</div>
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The same afternoon post coffee and some shopping, I was looking for an auto. This time it was Chand Pasha. He is a fancy creature with a big joint family. He wanted to earn an extra 20 bucks. I reprimanded him not to beg and haggle like this. I told him that customers would give you 'dua' and more than 20 bucks if your 'neeyat' is clean. He kept insisting he is a good guy and I kept telling him he must be!I told him I'd rather lose some 50 bucks but never see a dishonest person's face ever. Incidentally, I found him at the auto-stand the next day and he dropped me to work and he owed me 20 bucks which he assured me can be sorted in my return trip if he was around and that he was going to ferry me to work everyday. I gave him a courtesy call in the evening to check if he was around, he was not. The next day, his phone was switched off. His 'neeyat' was to earn 20 bucks more!</div>
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Honesty does not have a religion. Truly. The other day, my colleague and I flagged an auto home. He dropped off my colleague mid-way and we were homeward bound. The display credentials intrigued me. He was also a Pasha and he had an honest meter. I didn't strike any conversation with him, I was just a passing listener to his one random phone conversation. He spoke his Hindi with a highland accent.I was convinced he is from Kashmir. So out of curiosity, as I was paying the meter fare, I asked him where he was from. He said he was not from Bangalore. Further probing, and he said, he came to Bangalore 25 years ago from Kashmir.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15176915839422507087noreply@blogger.com0Bengaluru, Karnataka, India12.9715987 77.59456269999998312.4764182 76.949115699999979 13.4667792 78.240009699999987tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927568989991782754.post-12162433081638054742015-09-02T02:53:00.000-07:002015-09-02T02:53:41.937-07:00Nose-picking day<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I usually don't rush to the office lift like I did today. Since both my boys were down with the seasonal flu at home I wanted to beat the evening traffic. Hit the G button and as the lift clicked to open, it was an uh-oh moment for me and the gentleman waiting for the lift on the ground floor. He was dressed prim and proper, I could even rattle off the brands and buttons he was wearing. But I'm convinced he'd do everything to avoid me like the plague now. I just caught him in the gross act of picking his nose gloriously and I couldn't help but hide my reaction. But it left me wondering, is it so shame worthy? But imagine shaking hands with him. Hygiene,my friend.</div>
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Now, now don't come blazing all your guns at me. Yes, we all pick our noses at some point, that is - out of necessity, for fun, joblessness and you can add your reasons. Look at our social conditioning. My boys do it more out of exasperation when they have snot and nasal debris stuck up there and I help them clear in the most non-disgusting way I can think of. And, off they run to the bathroom to wash their hands and face. And subconsciously, I am telling them it's best reserved for the bathroom and that too, under adult supervision.</div>
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Yes, a good part of my childhood was spent with folks and elders telling me not to fart in public, not to pick your nose in public,not to scratch your head in public and a lot of not-to-dos in public. They are habits best avoided and in case it's an unavoidable emergency, I was asked to look for a toilet or bathroom. I also remember getting flak for calling out some old folks in the family who farted quite loudly without rhyme or reason especially during social gatherings. Well, they are old I was told and they could do anything they like. Like really. </div>
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Coming back to picking noses.Our music teacher at school famously did so during assembly and prayer in full glory. I don't think she cared much for the suppressed giggles and the dirty stares. The result was we didn't want to learn the piano under her.Lost one hobby.</div>
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A Pakistani who thinks he is a father first.</div>
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His young lad goes to school while his wife keeps vigil.</div>
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In a distant land he drives from morn till his bones creak.</div>
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He asked me one question - why so much hate between our countries?</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15176915839422507087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927568989991782754.post-10713636135845590522015-02-17T02:57:00.005-08:002015-02-17T03:01:44.419-08:00The Double Promotion<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Y is my childhood school buddy
and we've been harmlessly mean (you know, in an innocent way) to each other.
She hated me for topping the class and I hated her for the awesome Tibetan noodles
and momos she got as lunch. But we pretty much stuck together. So in her FB
post today, she asked her friends to recount how and where we met her and our
mutual comments drizzled to how I got the double promotion at school. And, I told
her it’s some story and I should tell her sometime.</div>
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So, this is for all of you, who
know and don’t know that I got double promoted in school, not once but twice. Yes,
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There was no pre-school when I was
growing up and the mandatory has-to-be-3 yrs old rule for Nursery A and that I was
a July-born made things difficult for my parents. I don’t remember learning
rhymes or ABC. I had figured numbers till 100.All the colors, most animals,
birds and the blah. I must be 3 when I used to struggle through multiplication
table 9 and, how I hated my parents for it. I recited my first poem before I began
school – a Bengali poem composed by my father, I don’t even recollect a word. </div>
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My nursery interview was a
disaster, my parents think. Because I could not sing any conventional nursery
rhyme but I belted my own chartbuster – of some dandy this, dandy that. But my
headmistress was quite delighted with my performance and promoted me to Nursery
B. Of course, my parents were relieved and eventually proud, and one more blame
game subdued. So that makes Y my immediate junior. The stakes just got higher
and I was learning the table of 13 and 14 with lot of stress, sheer rote. And
no, my mother didn’t feed me almonds or memory enhancing tablets. I was pretty
much the topper all through kindergarten and class 1 and also, the class
monitor. Always.</div>
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Then things got out of order. We
had to leave town because my dad’s mother, technically my paternal grandma was
unwell - a cranky old lady who was not particularly fond of kids. So, I didn’t
go to school for a year. Father’s meager salary couldn’t meet all expenses and
selling ancestral property for short term plugging was not his kind of problem
solving. He promised to get me to school the next year. I was cool about it.
That year, I played under the tropical sun, woke up whenever I felt like, slept
whenever I felt sleepy, walked 2 kms to watch BR Chopra’s Mahabharat every
Sunday, climbed trees, plucked fruits, chased cows, got bitten by leeches and
stung by ants, fell into ponds almost drowned, got scared by snakes and ghosts
and what not! But, that year remains by far the most educative of my entire
life. I saw how tough it was for Mother to go through the grind at so many
levels, our younger brother was just born and my sister was just 2 years old.
Father learnt it the hard way that one’s own brothers and relatives can be
pretty indifferent when the going gets tough. Lessons in resilience and
self-reliance.</div>
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Fast forward to the next year, we
came back to Shillong to start from where we left. Lost all our belongings and
household stuff to the idiocy of our landlord’s son - recovered most of the
documents but lost plenty of memories.
Rehab started and I was back in school. My old classmates were a year
senior and I was where I needed to be, Y became my classmate. My parents never
prepared me – they thought I was brave enough to handle it. But, my old
classmates were taunting, the boys especially. They’re sure I’d flunked a year.
And, here I was trying to tell them my grandma was ill. But who listens to a
6-year old? The shame gave way to resilience. I gathered steam and did enough
to tell others that I am better than them. I was the class topper and the class
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My winter vacations were
rigorous. My father made sure I had procured Math and Grammar textbooks from my
immediate seniors and I had to slog it out a couple of hours. No, we didn’t
visit relatives because their kids had winter exams, CBSE syllabi. So every
spring when school re-opened I was sort of ahead of the others in class. But there
were equally bright and intelligent folks in class like Y who learnt stuff
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At the end of my sixth standard
winter vacation, besides my winter ritual of Math and Grammar practice I spent
some part of it learning how to make candles with my Headmistress’s daughter.
She was a couple years older than I and I learnt a good deal of art and hobby
stuff from her. She also helped me with my projects. As the holidays were drawing
to a close and school books were readied for the next session and like always, I
had mastered almost more than half of my Math and Grammar for the seventh
standard. I was very bored one evening at home looking at my books when someone
joked that I should consider asking for a double promotion. And that’s it. The
next day, I actually had the gall to present my case to the headmistress while
she was running up to office to receive late admissions. And, I don’t remember
what all I spoke to her but she smiled at me and asked me for a valid reason. I
told her I am generally good in a lot of things and there is evidence – I’ve
been consistently winning the General Proficiency prize every year. More
importantly, I had cracked more than half of the 7<sup>th</sup> standard Math
and Grammar. I am definitely sure my headmistress must have thought I was
crazy. I came home and told about my incredible case to my parents. They didn’t
laugh at me but they didn’t condemn me either. I was relieved and by evening I had
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School reopened and we were
officially in the 7<sup>th</sup> standard, there was something about being in
this class. Coming of age sorts. Our class teacher was a fabulous light-eyed
lady who would teach us English Literature and Grammar. She got us organized for
the year, divided us into activity groups and who would do what. We loved the sense of community in the class.
Each one contributed not beyond 50 paise to a rupee for the class fund and we’d
get the charts in place and tidy up with nice dainty curtains. So the monitors
were the cashiers and our class teacher assured us that she’d cover should we
run into any shortage. Of course, she meant every word of it. The first day of
school is usually a half-day, staff meeting and annual plan of action and all
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It was just the second day when I
was counting the coins to procure chart papers and we’re quite sufficient I thought
for the time being. You’ll always find me on the front row when the class
teacher beckoned me. My instinctive reaction was – no Miss, we don’t need the
money. We’re doing good. We’d ask you when we need. She gave me a puzzled look.
She gently brushed my protests and asked me to come to her table. I went up.
She told me in her very calm voice to pack my bags and go to the 8<sup>th</sup>
standard classroom. I was like what??!! Oh wait! Yes, we had a staff meeting
yesterday and the teachers agreed that Kiran should be given a chance to prove
herself in the 8<sup>th</sup> standard. And I also respect those teachers who would
have protested and rightly so. I don’t think I even said a proper bye to my
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That walk to 8<sup>th</sup>
standard classroom was the toughest, the loneliest and the longest. Young 14-year
olds embracing adolescence and teenage angst and what’s that got to do with
someone who just got a double promotion. I knocked the door. My new class
teacher received me matter-of-fact. Of course, she did her best to keep it as
low profile as ever. And, I am thankful to her for that. My really former
classmates were puzzled – those enquiring looks and some pretty dismissive and
indifferent but no harm or malice at any point in time. I took the corner most
seat on the front row abandoned by all and looked around. How I wanted to run
back to my last class of familiar faces and friends. And, the wait for school
to finish so that I could run home and tell parents that I just got double
promoted. One girl reached out, she still remains my fondest friend though we
are not so much in touch these days. More folks joined us in the coming days.
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I continued to remain a pariah
and outsider for reasons best known to the girls at least. Oh yes, one reason
was I was not dating anyone in the short lived class affairs. I was such an
unattractive nerd and I couldn’t bring myself to create those mushy feelings
for my fellow boys, I looked at them as equals in the field. I even went to the
extent of proclaiming my innocence by tying the sacred Rakhi thread on those
poor hapless boys who also readily agreed. I did what I was good at – studies and
I soon earned the sobriquet – teacher’s pet. It was fashionable to be a rebel
and I was anything but a rebel. So the class hated me with all its might. I was
competing with 4 boys for the top slot in the class. I had average marks in a
couple subjects and I quite remember those subject teachers giving me those all
knowing but shrugging I-told-you-so looks almost making me regret my double
promotion. I was unsure if I’d ever crack Acids, Bases and Salts like a pro and
balance chemical equations like that. I worked harder and longer. My old mates had
no choice but to give me that space. To be accepted in a new environment, one
tries every trick in the book – right from writing assignments for others and
undergoing friendly roast-ish banter and bullying. I also gave it back to one of
the bullies in class, male or female you should not ask. The next year, I was
elected Vice Head Girl and eventually, I went on to become the Head Girl of our
school. My moment of reckoning had come but at some amount of personal cost –
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My parents taught me to deal with
shit by not taking shit, no mollycoddling. And, it’s ok to be hated by some.
Whoa, the perils of a double promotion. No, it does not have to do with being
bright and brilliant with the books alone. There’s so much going on underwater.
I wish I had more mindful teachers who saw me battle out all alone and who should
have given me a gentle nudge or a kind word once in a while. My Math tutor
refused to admit me to the prestigious all boys club because they’re brighter
and faster and whatever. I refused to budge and told him that I was saving up
all my fuel for the Boards and he shall live the day to see that. I just did enough
to get distinction marks in most papers, I left a couple of questions unanswered
because I was so damn sure of what I wrote and I was not wrong, I topped the
school. Everyone happy, my parents and especially my school – my Headmistress
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When i was growing up, there came a point in time when i wished there was no neighbour around me - they were so pesky and annoying. Their current affairs was so up-to-date - what rank you got, what food you ate, how thick and healthy was your hair on the head,how many new dresses and pairs of shoes you had, which guy you were seen with and yada-yada. They also resorted to amusing tactics of isolating you out if you didn't accept their seniority and supremacy- they will steal your plants, break your planters or steal clips from the clothes-line and the occasional but cowardly pelting of stones and breaking of windows..Mind you, this has nothing to do with what culture they belong to or their economic standards.Whatever the case, neighbours were the least important in my scheme of things.I preferred friends and family.</div>
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And when you settle away from home in a new city, your roomies and colleagues at work who become friends become your lifeline. You have similar fears and strengths before going your own ways. The occasional filtering also happens when you realise a certain roomie and his/her priorities don't gel with yours and you have a choice of letting go, nastily or gracefully. There will be moments when you will feel betrayed,cheated and disgusted - the sense of closure is nowhere. There are no neighbours to run to - you run out of something, or you're in the middle of a mess - you turn to your roomie/friend/colleague to bail you out! They are your actual neighbours within a house or system, if you may. There is clearly no marked space.</div>
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When i moved to the US after our wedding, we were in a nice gated community, half of whose occupants i never saw or met.In such a lovely neighbourhood, making friends is tough.I made friends at the bank, the library and the bakery-cum-bistro down Castro Street. Most true-blue Americans that i've come across will work Mon-Fri - work defines their identity. Small talk happens over a drink on a Friday evening and mostly before 9pm. Weekends are fiercely guarded to catch up on sleep, bicycling, trekking in one of the national parks or as mundane as picking up groceries or mall-hopping. Even pot-luck lunches are so timed!Yes, you do say the clipped 'Hi there!' when you're at the pool or taking a walk down the park. But there are no conversations beyond that. I stopped feeling strange - in the US, time is a huge premium.Oh yes, you do have plenty of friends but they live miles away.</div>
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Within a week of Kavitha assuming duties in my house, i asked her to keep an eye for a decent cook. She got Savitha - a shrewd Kannada girl from Mysore, who minced no words about how much premium she commanded in terms of time and money. She refused to come at my preferred timing and the yada-yada. I had little to no options - our little community of families had grown up kids and working mothers - so all the other cooks are engaged. Kavitha also gently cautioned me that Savitha has a history of not lasting beyond a month. I kept a brave face and told myself, if Savitha does not get along with me, she possibly won't find a better employer. Savitha is technically a great cook but will not do anything on her own - she will cook as instructed, she is also lightning fast No, you can't engage in any small talk with her - she finds that micro-management and she gets nervous.But within a week, she started nosing around Kavitha if yours truly will gift her anything for Onam. Heck, what? I just gave her new bangles and sweets for Ganesh Chaturthi.And within a week, she bunked work without informing me. A week later, she wanted leave for 3 days - i didn't ask her why but i green-signalled. She didn't show up for an entire week - no calls, no SMS. I made up my mind to let her go. I put pressure on Kavitha to ask her dear friend to get in touch with me.</div>
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I've been meaning to write about these two people who i am very grateful to for embracing me in this new city with all my pet peeves and all that baggage. To the rest of the world, they are not even visible. One is my help - Kavitha and the other is my cook - Bhagyalakhsmi. Both are migrants and not locals. Not like, i had difficulty getting anyone here - instinctively, the frequency should match.</div>
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I waited out a month or so, waiting for the reasonable one to come along. I had to endure door-rings, desperate pleas to be hired and all the heart-wrenching games that follow. There were some interesting ones that came along. One of them was an elderly but very street smart woman by the name Salma. She had betel-nut stained teeth and of course, very calloused lips - she walked up to my door and with almost certain divine birthright asked me to 'retain' her as the cook - i usually have a very intense interview with every prospective case. So i asked her why should i hire her? She answered very confidently - because the previous tenant trusted her with the kitchen and she is very comfortable working in my kitchen - she told me she knows more about my kitchen than even i would. She even went to the extent of bullying the younger ones who knocked at my door. That cheesed me off, very badly. I made up mind to ensure she does not enter my house. Fair play, woman. I pulled out my trump card - when she came with that betel-nut smile to be hired - i told her i am not hiring her and the reason is, she ruined the gas stove burner while in her previous employment and that, i had to shell out quite some dough to get it back to some respectable shape. She never showed her face again. </div>
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My kind neighbour offered me her help and cook and i was really relieved. One, i don't have to worry about security and trust, given the fact the mother-daughter duo were working in her house for the last 8 months.The only rider being - the mother will work if the daughter is hired. My neighbour's reasonable caution being - the daughter's husband is dying from his drinking adventures and she takes off unannounced but the mother always covered for the day - so no pay deductions and it worked well for both parties. So, the mother cooked and the daughter took care of the cleaning and they come two times a day, seven days a week. What luck, i thought! We had that friendly negotiation that i would stop looking around and they will start from today. That today never came. Because young and perky Pramila would not turn up, elderly Rama would not start cooking. This drama went on for a week, see how patient i have become. I got bizarre reasons when i asked about Pramila's absence - she forgot to come because she slept through and blah.I gave her exactly a week plus 3 days bonus for her to show up. She didn't show up and trust my bizarre luck, i had no options - all knocks and enquiries stopped (thanks to old and wily Salma's bullying of the younger lot).The day Pramila showed up, my husband opened the door - she instructed him to summon Didi (that's me). The summoning bit irked me.My husband was visibly amused. I went to meet her. She was like yeah, she's supposed to start work. I looked at her and told her i am not hiring her. She was stunned - why? because i don't want to hire you -you slept through the day when the deal was made 10 days ago. I will hire anyone but you. She asked me if someone has replaced her - i said, already. She asked me - who? None of your business. </div>
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So, i was without a help, and without a cook as well. I was resisting hiring a cook for sentimentally silly reasons. But with a hyperactive toddler and another on the way and, our bigger mission to eat healthy, home-cooked food at work, my energies and resources were getting poorly divided. And, i am not a champion in cooking, i am reasonably good.So, we had those really volatile days.Oh!eating out? forget it - this part of the city is poorly blessed with quality and service in the culinary department. Flashy joints and sub-standard food -we had very disappointing trips.</div>
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Then one day, Kavitha came by. She is tiny, wiry and frail - left me wondering how will she work? Some routine police-kind of questions and the more important, background check. I had grown paranoid reading reports of daylight murders and robberies in the city - i feel vulnerable at all levels, especially with a toddler who can't even speak a word for himself except his endearing babble. With loads of cynicism i told her of my rules - that i would not be monitoring her at any point but one fine day if i discover a missing spoon (symbolic),that will be her last day in the house. Also, she should not cut corners - do less work but do it well. And, she would not demand hikes,gifts, money and the jazz unreasonably. I told her, she will never get an occasion to ask - because,i am generally mindful of such occasions. Her face braved all of that - and she shot back, very politely - stealing a spoon or anything for that matter won't send her to the grave rich. Ok, you're hired. </div>
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So, Kavitha is not literate. She is about 28 years. She eloped when she was 13.She has 2 daughters, one 14 and another 9.Both of them attend a private 'English-medium' school.She is a Chennai-based Telugu.She works in 4 homes to pay for her kids' fees and to keep the kitchen hearth going. Her husband's contribution is zero - he is the personal driver for some big-shot and, is a perennial drunk and chicken-consumer. She told me her story on my asking - I usually dismiss this as a routine sob-story that all maids use to milk some guilt and sympathy. She is fond of Arjun and is caring towards him. She is not fussy, keeps to her work and there are days, when we share breakfast and some tea.She's scared of taking leaves, lest her pay gets cut.</div>
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Of late, she is not keeping well - every third day, she has 'fever' (any sickness is fever). Today, we had a long chat over breakfast - the actual reason of her 'fever'. Her daughter is in class 8 in a private school.The fees are getting higher - she opted to send her to a govt.school, the daughter refused to shift, saying all her friends are in this school. Her husband asked her to discontinue the daughter's education from the next academic session. Kavitha does not know how to cope with this tension.I heard her out, I told her worrying so much won't solve the problem as much as working her gut off in so many homes.She does not want any charity but she wants her girls to have some legacy of being educated at least, until the 10th standard.Her husband is callous. Her girls, however innocent, are unaware of the travails she has to go through to keep the house functional. She tells me their demands are endless. They want new dresses for every festival, they also want similar crayons and all that blah. She obviously, cannot afford every desire of theirs. She has stopped feeling guilty. She does not blame them.</div>
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I told her she should never ever resort to the kind of thing her mother did. P told me,she won't and that she loves her life and that there are enough people in the family who keep reminding her that her life is worthless and that she might end up like her mother. So she wants to prove a point. </div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15176915839422507087noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927568989991782754.post-31100248162383649412013-01-12T20:37:00.001-08:002013-01-12T20:38:32.446-08:00A good year gone by and a great year ahead!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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So 2012 was very,very good. Arjun arrived in style.No hassle,no fuss - more on that later. He was this little heavyweight who knew what he is here for. He was watching movies with us from day 4 of his arrival and what a movie to introduce him to - <b><i>Rowdy Rathore</i></b>!</div>
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After my nice ManFriday decided to leave for Bombay, i ran into help/maid worries in the peak of my pregnancy and post-delivery.But then, babies bring their own luck come what may. Touchwood, i have a million-dollar angel, ready to mould in whatever way i wanted her to be. She knew nothing when i took her in but she was willing to learn and took care of me, post that. Family and relatives come and go, but she remains.You get the drift.When hubby dear and i have those rare arguments,she ends up crying. She has one landmark statement for me - "Didi, you are serious when you speak to Saab in English." Serious meaning sad,tensed or angry.</div>
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His <i>mundan </i>ceremony took us to MP, the land of his father and forefathers- very calm and imposing.It was heartbreaking to see him give up those lovely silken locks which i took care for months since his birth. It was also our long due meet-the-relatives trip. We had a gala time!</div>
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And, in all these, our very dear friends were not far behind. A very dear friend about my age has adopted a big grown-up girl. And, both of them want to study! A few fell in love and also, moved on. Two got engaged.Yet another fought through work stress to be a super fit person. Some of my lovelies are raising beautiful children and spreading so much cheer. We don't get time to speak everyday but we don't forget to remember them in our prayers and join them in their celebrations and victories and be there in times of difficulty.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15176915839422507087noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927568989991782754.post-66597015635225836222012-10-16T23:12:00.003-07:002012-10-18T22:48:32.014-07:00Matheran Revisited<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Matheran is very different than what it was in our young salad days or maybe,we have matured and changed since. Decision around which dates and where to stay didn't take long- V is a an ace!Packing was my responsibility - all things in one rucksack - baby's,his and mine.His memories of the place were as remote and distant as mine. He had trekked this place with his friends and I had come here with colleagues from work.Very very different situations.And, now, it's about our small world.</div>
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Check drill of what we carried and the jazz from tickets to diapers, mosquito repellant to moisturising cream and what not.Remembering the mistakes of my last trip to Matheran, i made my bestest-sure not to goof-up this time, especially with a 4-month in tow.You just can't afford to. The 9-day Ganesh festival was on, so Hyderabad looked crazy. We reached the station on time and boarded the Hussainsagar Express (Sec-Mum).Very homely compartment - we ran out of what next to eat.Sonny boy got frightened to sleep in the lower berth otherwise very well-behaved.Our original plan was to get down at Kalyan at 2AM and take the connecting local to Neral, at 4AM.We chucked that and decided to get off at the last stop, Mumbai and take the local from there. I am so glad we did that.</div>
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As our train rolled in at CST(formerly VT) at 5 am, V promised to show me a different side of Mumbai and the gentle morning air also brought back old memories of a young man's tryst with Maximum City.I heard so much about Mumbai never sleeping, i believe that now. As we left the station, V very helpfully refreshes my memory with an unlikely starter - this is where Kasab..I was like yes, i know but don't take his name please!Hopped into a quaint cab and V wanted to show me the iconic Gateway of India and the Taj by the sea. It is no longer open to the common man at all times after the infamous 28/11 bombing.Barricaded, we saw it in passing as much as we passed by the iconic hotel. As i stared out to a sleeping Mumbai, i imagined how a regular day must be with the humming janta,traffic, chaos and din. I could hear the streets breathe and sleep and a crow cawing once in while.We headed off to Marine Drive for a cuppa by the Arabian Sea.No, we didn't see any actor/actress jogging by as many claim.Of course, we were seated bang opposite the iconic Air India building at Nariman Point. It was so heartwarming to see so many families and bunches of youngsters in happy chatter enjoying a cup of tea at dawn.A lot of morning walkers and the municipal boys in their cleaning drive.V tells me Marine Drive always holds a special place for any aam Mumbaikar, i am sure it does. We also came across a small time scribe who was on a signature campaign to have more toilets installed.</div>
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We were back at CST to catch the local to Neral, killed time nibbling <i>sabudana vadas</i>. People here are so dang punctual, read their newspapers religiously and a host of other things.Passing by different stops,Mumbai stinks I must say, no cleanliness drive in the world can save this city.The sights and smells drove Sonny boy mad, he was already tolerating the humid weather.So relieved to reach Neral,we had a quick vada-pav breakfast and set off to Dasturi. The number of hair-pin turns can leave you a little queasy.From there it's a horse-trot or a trek or hand-pulled buggies or better still, the newly refurbished toy train.</div>
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We were done with breakfast. I wanted some much needed sleep while V decided to take a walk in solitude. He promised to be back by noon for piping hot lunch.He got me the freshest wild flowers from the valley and he did seem to have enjoyed a proper workout.Two incidents left me gaping.</div>
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V had picked up a bottle of Fanta to keep him company. As he went deeper into the woods with the sunlight peeping through the leaves, he had little idea that something like this could also happen to him. Generally, he is always prepared for any eventuality but this time around i had packed, remember?So no knife,no torch and a host of other things. Out there in the distance, this fairly strong guy stood in the middle of V's path. Both of them stopped and sized up each other.First, there was silence, each asking the other to back off but well. When V decided not to budge, two others from the bushes showed up. And it was a uh-oh moment for V.He had nothing on him, not even stones or a stick. The stares didn't take long to turn to menacing gnarls. The message was plain and simple - hand over what you have and leave, no questions asked.V had no option but to surrender the bottle of Fanta. The monkey grabbed and opened it, guzzled it down in 3 shots and disappeared into the bushes.Whew!That was close.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15176915839422507087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927568989991782754.post-63201256941886583742012-10-15T22:38:00.001-07:002012-10-15T22:38:56.985-07:00Cute because Chinese or the other way round<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15176915839422507087noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927568989991782754.post-5641191836576437412012-09-09T23:09:00.002-07:002012-09-09T23:29:13.254-07:00Pedicure-ing my baby<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I don't know who used to trim my nails when i was a baby;all through my school life it was always my father who religiously took out time every Sunday to ensure my nails were trimmed neatly with a blade.Yes, a blade. He hated the nailcutter because he could not see the inside of it and feared it might slice the skin here and there. A blade, in his opinion gave him more control and hold. Not to worry, i began to wield the blade soon enough effortlessly.And guess what, on my first job away from home, my father tucked a nailcutter in my bag asking me to upgrade in life. Poignant enough,i find it so strange my father pushed all of us to adapt to the changing times but refuses to change himself. I am informed he still does not use a nailcutter and old as he may be, his nails are still neat as ever, perfectly trimmed.</div>
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My husband picked up a real cute nailcutter, a penguin-shaped one for sonny boy when he was 3 days old. Yes,sonny boy made his entry to this world with already grown nails and baby nails are ouch,sharp!It hurts when he scratches. Little does he know who/what/where he is scratching. Half the time, he is hurting himself. And how often will one put him on mittens.It's a sweaty humid country. I have a pet peeve towards long nails. No,i don't chew them. I just like and have always maintained short, prim and propah nails. Yes, i also paint them and buffer them time to time. I wanted to trim them asap but how and when. </div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15176915839422507087noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927568989991782754.post-22369130158271645382012-08-23T02:37:00.000-07:002012-08-23T02:37:00.623-07:00Eid Mubarak<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I missed that warmth and verve when I came to <st1:city>Hyderabad</st1:city>
for the first time. I remember tagging my room-mate to our office driver’s house
for Eid somewhere near Tolichowki. We were greeted with the customary fragrance
of Attar and Eid embraces and led to a room meant only for the women. The same
evening, we also visited another colleague’s house near Mehdipatnam and I
remember, his wife had prepared quite a spread for all of us.</div>
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Thereafter, Eid memories for me were just another holiday
and people around talking of haleem and biriyani. This year, my husband
insisted I should see Charminar in its <st1:time hour="0" minute="0">midnight</st1:time>
glory. I almost nearly missed it thanks to the viral marathon in the house. I
am glad I didn’t miss it this time. My only worry was our son, will the little
fellow be able to deal with the madness and rush. God, he did and beautifully.
I called up an old student to check the traffic conditions in and around
Charminar knowing how paranoid my husband can get driving a big beast. </div>
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We were treated like royalty by the traffic police. Got
decent enough parking near the High Court, we walked a total of 3-4 km through
lanes and bylanes. Arjun was the most awake and he saw the world backwards and
frontwards from his father’s shoulders while his father went away clicking
pictures with one hand. We lapped up piping hot butter masala dosa and vadai at
one of the roadside eateries. The baubles and shimmer and glitter took everyone
by storm. My fever vanished. Everyone seemed to be out shopping then, the poor
the rich and just about everyone from dry fruits to clothes to sandals to
bangles. It felt good to see so many people out shopping at that unearthly hour.
I was given the second odd look once in a while while my husband and son
enjoyed the exclusivity. We picked up some nutmeg.</div>
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In the midst of all the hustle and bustle and the jostling,
suddenly we had arrived at the foot of the Charminar. All around were scattered
peels of fruits and leftovers of shopping cart discards. But the magnificence
can’t be beaten. We stopped by for some sugarcane juice and decided to hitch an
auto ride. Hard luck, no auto wanted to come the High Court side. I was so
tired chasing and trying to keep pace with my husband. I remember screaming at
him if he was catching some train. He told me he wanted to save our son from
the pollution. I was like, yeah right. Little fellow had a sound sleep back in
the vehicle.</div>
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Two days later was Eid and we visited old childhood friends
of my husband. It took us the entire day and platefuls of sewaiyan and dates.
Old world hospitality and conversations and a quaint accent of Hyderabadi
wafting through the attar incensed air. I was a little annoyed with myself for
my inability to wish my friends. Better late than never. Eid Mubarak!</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15176915839422507087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927568989991782754.post-67647437149643181512012-03-04T23:16:00.002-08:002012-10-28T21:06:28.439-07:00The mosquito net<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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It was 1981 and mom, all of 23 was
in her 7<sup>th</sup> month with her first child. She trailed Dad all the way
to Uppal in <st1:city><st1:place>Hyderabad</st1:place></st1:city> from a sleepy
town in <st1:country -region="-region"><st1:place>Assam</st1:place></st1:country>.
The office provided quarters – a big room with 2 single beds (which could be
joined to make a single one) and an attached kitchen. The common bathroom was
outside in the hallway. The Goyals lived next door and there was this other family.
Life was very comfortable despite the small stipend – weekend visits to
Charminar and Salar Jung, the Zoo and rides on horse-drawn <i><st1:country -region="-region"><st1:place>tongas</st1:place></st1:country>
</i>and no windows but curtained double-decker buses. Sugar-cane juice and black
and white (Isolate 2) photography were the weekend treats. Vegetables and
fruits were in plenty and very dirt cheap.</div>
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Summer is summer. The fan ran
non-stop and mom would tie soaking wet clothes around the bed poles as a sort
of cooler As the days advanced, she took to sleeping alone in a single bed and
craved for a mosquito net. She informs me the mosquitoes are peculiar this side
with a white spot on their heads, almost as if they are wearing Gandhi <i>topis</i>. So
off they went to the <i>bazaar </i>one weekend and brought home a nice mosquito net for a decent bargain. Both hoped for some respite and relief and some peaceful
sleep.</div>
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She was woken up in the middle of
the night by the sound of the front door being opened. Oh, dad just stepped out
to visit the bathroom. The door was kind of ajar and there was a gentle breeze
outside. And she felt relieved she was not a feeding pit for those bellowing
mosquitoes grr-ing outside the mosquito net. Just then, she felt a poke in her
tummy, she was lying on her side with her eyes on the door waiting for dad to
come back. She thought, must be the hyperactive baby inside her. Then, another
poke. She turned and lied on her back. She felt the poke again and, wait. This
time it was a long stick from outside the mosquito net. There seemed to be two
people standing outside the mosquito net and one was holding the stick. She sat
up with a fright and called out for dad. There was no sign of him, the door
still open and creaking, and she was left with no choice but flung herself out
of the bed and ran towards the door only to find it latched and when she turned
back, the strange visitors had disappeared. And, she heard dad snoring in the other
single bed.</div>
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She woke dad up and went hysterical
for sleeping so deaf to all her shouts and screams. Dad had no idea so much had
happened within 3 feet of each other. The mosquito net was brought down and it
was a sleepless night for many reasons. The next day, the mosquito net was
disposed (actually burnt) and those pokes and visits never happened again.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15176915839422507087noreply@blogger.com0Hyderabad, Andhra Pradesh, India17.385044 78.48667117.142593 78.170814000000007 17.627495 78.802528tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927568989991782754.post-6056476356736939982012-02-14T21:33:00.000-08:002012-02-14T21:35:06.891-08:00Valentine's Day<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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2006 - I remember ‘celebrating’ my
first Valentine’s Day with my best friend A, and her elder sister – our MD. We
never believed in love per se but what the heck.Of course, we were always broke,
research scholars that we were. MD always bailed us out. The Horticulture Deptt
of our home state put up a stupendous rose and strawberry show and live music
by a very old band at our favourite All Saints’ Hall. Old and young, married
and unmarried but much in love – pride and happiness at the homegrown Dutch
roses and the strawberry spread, again home-grown. We decided not to go
restaurant-hopping since we would be ‘disqualified’ for all ‘couple’ benefits.
MD bought us a box of strawberries each and the roses came for free. Those were the days, my friend.</div>
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2 years later, when I met him and I told A, she was the happiest but she said she’d travel to
my part of the world to approve/disapprove after meeting ‘the love’. She was
not disappointed. And, the Valentine’s Days that followed were forgettable. We
simply did not believe in that one day, found it too yo! And we were definitely
not part of the cappuccino crowd. You can imagine the kind of gifts I got from him– a hammer and a tool-kit when I was moving house, or a global travel
adapter or a fish-net for my aquarium – yes, very practical ones, nothing
remotely romantic.</div>
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And, last year, when the elders
decided to solemnize our engagement, the pandit chose a day we had been disdainfully laughing our heads off all this while <st1:date day="14" month="2" year="2011">–
14<sup>th</sup> Feb’11</st1:date>. Umm..well, the pandit informed us helpfully
that it was ‘shubh’ to help preserve love in a marriage. After the ‘sagai’,
we were packed off in the evening to go enjoy dinner and the works and come
back home early. We were officially ‘a couple’. </div>
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This year, ‘the love’ who is husband
now tells me on Monday that he has a surprise for me. He promised to be home by
5 in the evening.The surprise was he didn’t come home till 12 in the night. </div>
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14<sup>th</sup> Feb this year, he
took a day off for me. We had a bad idli-sambar breakfast at home. I made it up
with nice sambar-rice with papad and dahi in the afternoon and, ice-cream. Slept
like logs. Washed and cleaned the house. He fumbled around saying he left
something in the car and needed to get them. I can’t tell you how wow the
surprise was – a stunning blue Kanjeevaram. By the way, I was not yet over my
Sunday thrill when he gifted me a lovely silk sari, just my kinds type. We went
to the temple where I first offered to play city tour-guide to him 3 years ago.
That is another hilarious story. Another time. </div>
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Then, off we went to our
favourite <st1:city><st1:place>Green Bay</st1:place></st1:city> bakery for our
evening round of snacks and tea, this is close to my old workplace. And I was
nervous when he asked me to buy whatever came to my mind at the jeweller’s. I
told him I am not used to such things. And, he said reassuringly, we have a
lifetime to get used to such things. It was a gulp moment for me. When we left
the jeweller’s, I was sporting a lovely pair of ‘baalis’. Glee! We landed at
our favourite restaurant – and well, another awkward moment there. At the
entrance, the restaurant staff ‘instructed’ hubby dear to pick up a rose and
hand it to me. We were like okay! </div>
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As we were ruminating over the
years gone by, we realized how time flies so fast. So many things have happened
and so many are in the pipeline. We smiled as more couples with and without children in tow of all ages poured
in for their evening celebrations. As we were leaving, we saw the waiting lounge
– young and old, in their finest finery. </div>
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So, what goes around comes
around. Both of us shed our cynicism and agreed we cannot put away this date –
love is love but we still don’t and won’t belong to the cappuccino crowd and no
mush, yes, no mush. We rounded off the day with a sumptuous 'meetha paan' which
resembled a cone ice-cream. So much for Valentine’s day.</div>
</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15176915839422507087noreply@blogger.com1Hyderabad, Andhra Pradesh, India17.385044 78.48667117.142593 78.170814000000007 17.627495 78.802528tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927568989991782754.post-80449237254977335672012-02-07T19:42:00.000-08:002012-02-07T19:48:12.951-08:00What is your name, Madam? My name is Madam<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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It's been ages I had interesting conversations with the autowallah bhai log. Around Diwali, i met a kind soul who drove me home safely through an unavoidable potholed road.He charged 10 rupees more than the actual meter fare and for a change, i didn't feel bad giving him his premium. I also offered a box of Diwali sweets.His face lit up and he was tad guilty, left with a 'Happy Diwali, Madam!'</div>
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Yesterday,I was outside a big retail store with a big bag and of course,the waiting autos are always the foxy ones, negotiating with them is a real hurdle. So I don't even look at them - simply ignore. I flagged a running auto, a young boy driver and I must say,I am partial to brand new autos.He had absolutely short hair, seems to me, he shaved his head weeks ago.I didn't say a word, just hopped in and he had that 'please,meter pe 10 rupaiya, madam' look. I gave him a hard stare and told him to take the nearest left and exit to the connecting road. He mumbled a grumble but gave up mid-way, more like a student who has been denied a free period.He defended he won't get any return passenger. I retorted he should never give up hope.He said he lost all his hair hoping.I was like - come again? I preached if he got up everyday that he would not get any passengers.You can always expect 2 kinds of reactions. One, to extract their pound of flesh, some autowallas drive over potholes purposely and make you regret you ever hired them. Two, well the obvious - drive properly.Well, my young boy drove properly, more out of love for his new auto.And, methinks, he is not from the city, once in a while, he asked me directions. Two, he also gave me options of shortcuts or regular U-turns which meant more fuel and more fare.I left it to him and he took care it was optimum for both.</div>
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I was amused a little. I remarked at him that he does not look like a local, he confirmed. He was from Mahbubnagar and I asked him what about his family. He said he has none. I asked again, mother-father? He was puzzled, and answered of course, his parents were there. Then, what was he thinking - wife and kids <guffaws>. His parents were in Annaram.On further enquiries he said he is a class 9 drop-out and he was more interested in autos and lost interest in school.I asked him if he ever wanted to finish school. He said yes, his mother is after his life egging him to write his 10th.I asked him, if he wants to. He said yes because he feels bad his friends are in college.I asked him his age, he quickly defended saying he is not so grown-up as he looks but is much younger. I told him I didn't say he looked old. He reluctantly revealed he was 17.And what about his driving licence - he was like 'ho jata'. Very good, I told him his entire life was there in front of him and tomorrow, his kids would be very proud if their dad managed to study a little more.</guffaws></div>
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Soon, I was at my doorstep. He pleaded with me to give that extra 10 bucks. I looked at him with a stern but gentle stare. I handed him the meter fare. He accepted it fairly. Then, I handed him 10 bucks with the promise that he will write his 10th open schooling exam.And wherever and whenever we meet again, he should shout out with the update.I asked his name - Venkatesh. He asked my name - 'What is your name, Madam?' I said, 'Madam!' And, that I used to teach kids his age.He held that 10 rupees, wondering whether to return or ..I didn't turn back.</div>
</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15176915839422507087noreply@blogger.com0Jubilee Hills, Hyderabad, Andhra Pradesh, India17.4295317 78.4126617.3992252 78.373178 17.459838199999997 78.452142000000009tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927568989991782754.post-66357477850485442932012-01-26T21:23:00.000-08:002012-01-26T21:47:58.499-08:00A suitcase of hopes<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I was looking outside the
window-sill, found the rain water outlet so absolutely clean. Before I could
turn around and ask, my mother informed me Guddu and Bhatt uncle got it
cleaned. My school can be seen across our house, a half-constructed parapet and
a little girl running around in white stockings with a nice red-jacket on and
her mother calling out her name.</div>
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Everything seemed very distant
and all the voices drowned in that feeble winter sunshine. There seemed to have
been a light drizzle. And there was this crumpled invoice of a failed courier
in my hand. That dark steel gray suitcase never reached me. I had not paid
attention to it in months. It was sent on <st1:date day="3" month="8" year="2011">the 3<sup>rd</sup> of August, 2011</st1:date> and today is <st1:date day="26" month="1" year="2012">the 26<sup>th</sup> of January, 2012</st1:date>.
There was a helpline number I could call on the reverse of that invoice. Some Mr.Kirti
answered my call, he tells me its about <st1:time hour="17" minute="30">5:30 pm</st1:time>
in Mumbai and the office is about to close for the day. I gave him the consignment
number and he agreed such a parcel came and was never delivered to the rightful
owner and they conveniently informed us – Lost In Transit. He was kind enough
to assure me the parcel is safe.</div>
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Suddenly, I hate myself for not
following it up on time. The courier people offered compensation but I stood my
ground. I thought of consumer rights and the counter measures, anything not
claimed over a period of 3months can be disposed in whatever manner by the
courier people. But they said the suitcase was safe. </div>
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I began wondering what about the
contents inside. This aunty told me she sent an orange saree with a black and gold
border, meaning ornate heavy stuff. Mother told me, my favourite saree was also
in that suitcase. I was like, oh no – you mean the silver one with that blue
and dull gold brocade? She said yes. I was even more determined to get hold of
the suitcase. Kirti told me the suitcase was in some godown in Pune. Why on
earth, Pune? </div>
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I dialed the courier people
again, since it’s a toll free 24/7 hotline. A young woman answers my call and I
could almost sense domesticity in the background - a cranky husband and a
cantankerous kid and our lady was munching on something. I rattled off my
missing bag story to her. She could not care a flying whatever, she told me she
was eating dinner and she will see into this on Monday. I was very desperate
and told her, that one of her colleagues spoke to me and assured me that they’d
go out of the way to ensure this got sorted out at the earliest. I don’t want
to sound sexist but I hated her so much at that point in time. I came down like
a ton of bricks on her and questioned her work ethics and what about that
glorified thing called customer care and service and how they could be so
careless of a missing baggage for 6 months. Mother interjects that she had packed
some homegrown herbs and foods. It was so agonizing to learn that, I almost
felt like saying woh sab jaye tel lene but the sarees are heirloom to me and I’d
do anything to remove the odours and smells of 6 months.</div>
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I wake up in the morning to find
my husband packing for his <st1:place>Europe</st1:place> trip and gosh, it was
the same steel gray suitcase standing next to his favourite Samsonite. Very endearingly,
he told me to have a look and see what needs to be added or subtracted. Of
course, I won’t find those 2 sarees – the orange one with the black and gold
border and of course, my favourite one, the silver one with the blue brocade. The
silver one is with mother and the orange one does not even exist. It was a <st1:time hour="4" minute="0">4am</st1:time> dream. </div>
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By the way, I have been shopping to my heart's delight without burning any hole whatsoever anywhere. I began the year with an envious Kashmiri collection -a chignon saree,a heavy embroidered party stole and a salwar suit that I admire day in and day out and would hate to see the tailor cut to size. A few days ago, went berserk getting Rajasthani mojris and jootis of the choicest colors and don't kill me for getting about 8 MP handloom kurtas in different hues and dyes. Oh, another update, a friend's mom in Baroda just sent me 2 splendid Bandhej salwar suits in glorious shades. I am already over the moon. And,these are not gifts.</div>
</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15176915839422507087noreply@blogger.com1Hyderabad, Andhra Pradesh, India17.385044 78.48667117.142593 78.170814000000007 17.627495 78.802528tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927568989991782754.post-10736084358537783242012-01-24T03:35:00.000-08:002012-01-24T03:35:53.548-08:00Apathy of the 'police'<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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A couple of years ago, my landlady's YWCA city wing visited the Chanchalguda jail and she came home with 3-4 items prepared by women inmates and prisoners, the scheme is sold under the name Sudhaar Products from Central Jails and Prisons. It was very encouraging to read that the annual Numaish mela also had a stall dedicated to Sudhaar Prison Products. My husband and i were there last evening. From furniture to bed covers,towels to candles and soaps, there was pretty much everything. There were a few long-serving prisoners who did the PR. We picked up a bar of hand-made soap, wrapped in simple butter paper and waited for the counter-guy to issue us the receipt.There were different counter guys for different central jails - Warrangal, Cherlapalli,etc and they were issuing receipts for every damn item sold.By the way,our soap was from the Cherlapalli jail.The need for a receipt here was more in terms of promoting their cause through social media and all those with eco-friendly advice of saving paper here can hold their horses. Had the soap wrapper carried some information on that particular Sudhaar product and price, we would have still parted in good faith.</div>
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But then,bullies exist everywhere - our counter guy from Cherlapalli here was a very bald man who came close to abusing and threatening us in Telugu to return the soap and that he won't issue a receipt.He must have attended until 12th std but the education was not forthcoming.We tried to understand his logic - he said he has made a manual entry in his sheet of paper that 1 cake of soap has been sold.We were like, good for you but no heavens would come falling if a similar piece of paper was given to us.The Warrangal counter guy was more forthcoming, he was more than willing to issue a receipt but the police ego of his colleague bullied him into meek surrender.Another spectacled half- paan chewing henchman also tried to flex his police muscles with us.But then, truth hurts - we told him, he was useless and doing no service to customers by making a redundant entry in some random sheet of paper,it would be productive if he wrote us a receipt. The bystanders, were as mute as the rocks in the Outer Ring Road. They were happy collecting their receipts and their bags. It was not a big deal but it got into us that the stubbornness needs to be corrected and the police need to appreciate why a consumer right of a receipt is important for all and especially, being the guardian of the law, it is more important the habit is inculcated by them. I was almost reminded of how police constables wanted easy money but bargain for a receipt and they take to their heels.</div>
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Being insistent helps, the head in-charge, a smiling man calmed us down and said, he will issue a receipt.He acknowledged that however small or big the amount, a receipt will be issued. We also told him to train his subordinates to be a little more customer-friendly in terms of listening.But then, a grudge is a grudge. He issued the receipt in the wrong book - the Central Jail of Warrangal and tore the bill with all his smouldering smiling anger, that half the information on the top of the receipt remained with him. The embarrassment was tantamount -- we said thank you, but no thank you. Everybody was left red-faced. We actually felt we were inside a prison and thought how tough it must be for those who are wronged and not given a chance to negotiate. Those in power, clearly love to revel in power without a sneeze or a toss.</div>
</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15176915839422507087noreply@blogger.com1Hyderabad, Andhra Pradesh, India17.385044 78.48667117.142593 78.170814000000007 17.627495 78.802528tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927568989991782754.post-73815120683861271842012-01-01T22:37:00.000-08:002012-01-01T22:45:48.006-08:00Random random random<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Another year went by in the city and it still fees like i left school just yesterday. I have a Peter Pan disorder. Also, I am prone to getting nostalgic at the drop of a hat as much as i claim to have moved on. Got some heady knocks and learnt some priceless lessons on the way, especially from near and dear ones and friends and former colleagues.No point intellectualising family and friends, each has their quirks and we have little choice but work around them, the options are few - endure,indulge or ignore.</div>
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I have literally gone places last year from status change to what not.I can't tell you how much i hate packing now, even unpacking is a nightmare. Many think i have changed - oh yes, if i am pausing by to catch a breath.</div>
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Living is an onward journey, with interesting chapters.I am not of a philosophical bent to say Life aha! It brings sheer joy to know comrades and 4am friends are following their hearts and dreams. Many are enjoying parenthood - the miracle of life does not cease to tire anyone.We don't get to meet or speak in days or years but that they are under the same sky somewhere is comforting. </div>
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I realised i am sentimental about challenges even with family. There are some things which are non-negotiable.I paid less alms last year and i am proud of it. Husband keeps small biscuit packets in the car and they are better than alms. Husband and i distributed surgical masks to traffic constables at signals, those surly guys smiled for once.I gave up eggs for 3 months on a whimsical challenge and celebrated the feat last night with a bread omelette I watch less TV,boring movies, dont touch the camera and read fewer books these days, and i am not fretting. I have an awesome ManFriday who brings tulsi saplings for my garden when i'm least expecting them.</div>
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When i was about 8, our family moved in as tenants to this lovely cottage in a happy neighbourhood called Mawpun near Pynthorumkhrah, the bigger and easily identifiable landmark being the hallowed and historical Golf Links.Each home was unique.If our landlady was obsessed about rare roses in this world, our Garo neighbour grew corn and dahlias, while our Khasi neighbour had the loveliest orchids and perfect greens - i remember, Mom even bought many bunches of healthy mustard leaves ( all for 2 rupees) for lunch and dinner from the old dame. Her grandchildren visited her every Friday - Christabelle, Annabelle and Euphraim. We became weekend friends. The girls had absolutely rosy cheeks.Euphraim had curly locks.Their granny would try catching hold of them and apply coconut hair oil on their hair - she felt they never took care of their mane. </div>
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I celebrated my first proper Christmas with them that winter. Otherwise Christmas was always part of my winter holidays when we visited Police Bazar and admired the aroma of cakes and bakes that wafted in the air. Some old men sold branches of pine and fir for last minute Christmas trees. The imported Chinese made foldable and re-usable ones had not invaded the market then. Christmas to me, was the cards (some which were hand-drawn) that classmates and friends gave.One would decorate those cards for a long time or staple them into a nice arrangement. Christmas was singing carols in school the entire month of November and looking forward to that class-party of chips, cakes and juice. It was always great to count the number of beautiful stars outside the porches of my neighbours, the bigger and more colorful, my innocent mind thought, they must be rich! It never snows in Shillong which makes Christmas very different and warm.</div>
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Chris and Anna, and some other new friends asked me to join them in a Nativity play for the Christmas Eve celebrations at the local church. My folks gave me permission since i loved acting. I played an old lady who goes ecstatic at the news of the birth of Baby Jesus and i was taught to sing - "I've got the joy in my heart!" I went out for the neighbourhood carol singing, all layered and armoured with socks and mittens, jackets and mufflers.It was chattering cold but so much of fun and excitement. Every home treated us to lovely goodies.On Christmas eve, I remember taking my costume and bunking at Chris's granny's place. The dinner was simple but very delicious. I remember Chris's youngest aunt coming and instructing us to keep our stockings ready (yeah, even i could keep one) because Santa was in town! We were like yay!But we also exchanged doubtful smiles. I dint have a stocking ready - or even a fancy pair of socks. In greeting cards, those stockings and socks looked so good and colorful. Felt relieved to know,Chris and Anna also dint have theirs. Their eldest aunt, who worked as a nurse told us not worry and that we could tie plastic bags, the bigger the better.We all managed bits and strands of strings of wool to tie our plastic bags on the Christmas tree which was in the drawing room, nicely lit and decorated.We got back to our rehearsals and totally forgot about the Santa goodies.</div>
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Midnight mass was over, we all wished Merry Christmas to one another. Neighbours who only existed became friends - those warm hugs, the winter chill was magical. We came home and Anna reminded us to collect our Santa gifts. Very endearingly, she hoped the gifts must have arrived. We were not disappointed. While the elders were getting ready to retire for the night we were busy tearing our gift-wrapped packets with shrieks not forgivable at that unearthly hour. But all is forgotten in Christmas.I received a pair of lovely dainty hair clips which i preserved for the longest time. Someone played Santa, so i thought coz i really dint have a wishlist. But like all polite girls, I said, thank you and smiled. </div>
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The next day, i accompanied Chris and Anna and attended the morning mass, came home. My family joined them for lunch. Lots of cakes and biscuits, sweets and goodies. Post-Christmas was even more fun. There was a community feast. All the youngsters cooked for the whole neighbourhood.The love and warmth, the sharing of joy and happiness with everyone around - that is what Santa gave me actually. After that, i remember there were smiles for the rest of the year, everyone was a friend.</div>
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Suddenly, all of us grew up. The weekend visits were fewer. We moved out to the office quarters, away from the idyllic settings of Golf Link. We would meet Chris and Anna once in a while, while shopping. Our excited hellos were immediately restrained because we were big girls accompanied by elders.Many winters have passed by. Wherever Chris and Anna are in Shillong, have a blessed Christmas!Thank you for bringing Santa into my life!</div>
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</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15176915839422507087noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927568989991782754.post-23015126688132938202011-09-20T01:10:00.000-07:002011-09-20T01:10:14.366-07:00Imaginary failings<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br />
<div class="MsoNormal">The little efforts at making peace</div><div class="MsoNormal">Seem so lost in a thirsty desert.</div><div class="MsoNormal">Life is not about deals always,</div><div class="MsoNormal">Even if the demons say so.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Letting go and letting in – </div><div class="MsoNormal">Makes one a hero and a coward.</div><div class="MsoNormal">How much and what you make of it -</div><div class="MsoNormal">Your choice to remain in the rat race.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Blaming fortunes and the villain – </div><div class="MsoNormal">Seems the easiest way out.</div><div class="MsoNormal">No family, no religion – </div><div class="MsoNormal">Seems sanctuary enough in bad times.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Weathering the storm with grace</div><div class="MsoNormal">Makes one a braveheart, so I am told.</div><div class="MsoNormal">Crying silently, consoling quietly –</div><div class="MsoNormal">Waiting for the darkness to fade away.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><o:p> ~ Yours truly</o:p></div></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15176915839422507087noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927568989991782754.post-65152777593519928022011-08-23T16:51:00.000-07:002011-08-23T16:51:40.320-07:00Mexican food tales and home-made tacos<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div style="text-align: justify;">I have never tried Mexican cuisine save for the affected upmarket nachos at PVR cinemas while in India - in the US, the urge is lower especially with limited vegetarian options.He finds them ok,especially the supermarket 'fresh' tortillas a good substitute for home-made rotis and phulkas and if the roti-maker that you have carried does not have matching voltage and the cooking appliance is not a gas burner but an induction one and a thousand other issues!</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">On the road trip during my birthday weekend, we had stopped by downtown <a href="http://www.guerneville-online.com/">Guerneville </a>for a quick bite - he had some piping hot cheese quesadilla while i stuck to my safe nachos with salsa.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Back in our neighbourhood, we stopped by one of these Mexican food-on-wheels, quite like the mobile <a href="http://www.thehindu.com/news/cities/Hyderabad/article2220824.ece">bundis </a>we have back home.Trust me, they have great stuff most times!</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
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</div><div style="text-align: justify;">I ordered a simple veg taco, the filling was tomatoes-onions-green chillies and some sauce sauteed with coriander garnishing on a hot iron pan. It was that simple but admittedly mouth-watering for a suddenly windy Californian evening.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Last Saturday, after a long day's hike and a movie evening out and my fastidious mind saying no to cooking at home or North/South Indian fare, we decided to go tacos!He is not very fond of Chinese or anything Asian, it will be acquired, he assures.But i must say i'm not very fond of the red beans taco for all its health benefits..I have a pet peeve or two with these beans. Also realised, the veg taco filling varies from wheel to wheel. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">At <a href="http://www.santanarow.com/">Santana Row</a>, at this nice quaint Mexican place - open air under a giant oak tree, i went footloose singing and clapping, dancing in my seat to their live Mexican music - a very happy place.I totally loved their pan-fresh Mexican fries with a light sprinkle of paprika, McDonalds should admit defeat and shame.He ordered Nachos with guacamole sauce and a sizzling something in sesame. We were killing time before that movie premiere.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Day before yesterday, he brought home a pack of tortillas and told me he is going to snip a centimeter of my hair everyday if the tortillas .Guffaws. So my lunch today was Mexican - <b>veg tacos :)</b></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><b><u>For the filling</u></b></div><div style="text-align: justify;">1 tomato, finely chopped</div><div style="text-align: justify;">1 big onion, finely chopped</div><div style="text-align: justify;">1 big green chilli, finely diced </div><div style="text-align: justify;">1 clove of garlic,finely diced</div><div style="text-align: justify;">1/2 a capsicum, finely diced</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Salt to tast</div><div style="text-align: justify;">A pinch of garam masala</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Garlic pepper powder</div><div style="text-align: justify;">A pinch of black salt</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Chopped coriander for garnishing </div><div style="text-align: justify;">A dash lime for garnishing</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Half a tsp of any tomato based sauce (optional)</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Any cooking oil</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Heat pan over medium heat.Pour very little oil.Add some mustard seeds and cumin seeds and see them through till they crackle. Add the chopped onions and garlic, stir and fry until they give out that nice aroma.You may want to add a pinch of <i>garam masala</i> for effect. Add the chopped capsicum and tomatoes till all the juices blend well. Sprinkle salt and sprinkle garlic pepper generously per taste.And sauce,optional though. Garnish with coriander, a dash of lime and a sprinkle of black salt.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Now over to the tortillas - took out a couple of them. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">(You can choose to heat them or not.You may also refrigerate them and serve later for a salad effect in styled cuts and slices, almost resembling those Indo-Chinese veg rolls, served in our restaurants back in India. Ideally, you should heat tortillas on a flat iron pan but putting them in the microwave for 20secs or so is as good enough.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">You could use anything imagined from peanut butter to flavoured cheese. I took my <a href="http://www.thelaughingcow.com/">favourite </a>sour cream cheese cube and smeared it all over the tortilla wrap and added my already prepared filling. Roll it, and its ready. I also took out some of his favourite hummus paste from the fridge and that was as good.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Sorry, no pictures - i was really hungry but its a pretty much easy D-I-Y method.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">I wanted to say Gracias to myself.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
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